Thursday, 11 December 2014 § Leave a comment
A woman in Utah prevailed in her appeal seeking a judicial declaration of common law marriage after the death of her partner. A local court granted her petition, but was reversed on appeal by the man’s surviving cousins, based upon the woman’s failure to inform her late partner’s cousins of the declaration of marriage she sought. She then took her appeal of that decision to the Utah Supreme Court. The five judge panel unanimously backed her appeal and stated that the lower court erred in allowing the man’s cousins to intervene and set aside the declaration of marriage. The decision noted that since the woman was the executor of her late partner’s estate, there was no onus on her to inform anyone that she was seeking a declaration of common law marriage.
Thursday, 6 November 2014 § Leave a comment
St. Louis City Circuit Judge Rex Burlison has ruled that Missouri’s ban on same-sex marriage is unconstitutional. In the ruling issued on November 5, 2014, Judge Burlison wrote that “Any same-sex couple that satisfies all of the requirements for marriage under Missouri law, other than being of different sexes, is legally entitled to a marriage license.” Attorney General, Chris Koster, may appeal the ruling to the Missouri Supreme Court.
Tuesday, 7 October 2014 § Leave a comment
Yesterday, the U.S. Supreme Court declined to hear appeals of multiple cases in which state appellate courts held that same-sex marriage bans were unconstitutional. This decision by the Supreme Court now makes it legal for same-sex marriages to proceed in those states (Indiana, Oklahoma, Utah, Virginia, and Wisconsin).
Same-Sex marriage is now legal in 30 states and the District of Columbia. A complete list is available here. Presumably, this list will continue to expand in the months ahead.
Saturday, 4 October 2014 § Leave a comment
Good news. . . but an unknown future path . . . for same-sex couples residing in Missouri after having legally wed in other states. Kansas City judge, J. Dale Youngs, is the first judge in Missouri to affirm same-sex marriage in the state. Judge Youngs found that a state ban on recognition of legal same-sex marriages violated the rights of gay couples to the same protections heterosexual couples have under the U.S. Constitution. We will see where the ruling goes on appeal.
Sunday, 7 September 2014 § Leave a comment
Married parents cannot sue each other, and as long as disputes between married parents do not involve anything harmful to the welfare of their children, matters concerning the upbringing of those children are left to the mother and father. If those parents divorce, courts get involved in myriad parental decisions, including choice of schools, doctors, religions. Parenting decisions once nothing to blink an eye at during marriage, suddenly receive court scrutiny. Do courts get too involved in parenting? Many states have dropped the term “custody” altogether, and have chosen less adversarial terms, such as “cooperative parenting.” Parenting should still be left to the parents in most situations.
Tuesday, 26 August 2014 § Leave a comment
If your spouse was a higher wage-earner during your marriage, and you were married at least 10 years, you may be able to collect a higher Social Security benefit (up to 50% of your ex’s full benefit), if you meet certain requirements. Remarriage makes you ineligible for this benefit. If you are close to the ten-year marriage mark, and thinking about divorce, it is worth considering the potential benefits Social Security may offer.
Sunday, 29 June 2014 § Leave a comment
On Wednesday, June 25, 2014, the St. Louis Recorder of Deeds office took the bold step of issuing marriage licenses to four same-sex couples. The weddings were then held in the private office of Mayor Francis Slay. In legal procedural terms, this move was a way for the City of St. Louis to challenge the constitutionality of Missouri’s ban on same-sex marriage. Mayor Slay was prepared for the challenge, and notified the Missouri Attorney General of the marriage licenses, knowing that the AG would have no choice but to uphold Missouri’s Constitution and file a lawsuit against the City. The City will not issue any more same-sex marriage licenses, pending the outcome of the suit. And so the game begins!
Sunday, 18 May 2014 § Leave a comment
Missouri has not taken the leap into the legalization of same-sex marriage, but in April, a judge in Greene County signed off on a same-sex divorce. Nine days after Judge Powell gave full-faith and credit to the Iowa same-sex marriage of Mary Hilsabeck and her partner, by giving the couple a legal divorce option, a judge in Boone County also signed off on a same-sex divorce. The wheels may now be in motion for the same thing to happen in other venues throughout the state. So, while it is still not possible for same-sex couples to legally wed in Missouri, some courts are doing the right thing and honoring the marriages of those couples who have exchanged vows in states where it is legal.
Friday, 9 May 2014 § Leave a comment
Researchers over and over have found that emotional failures rest at the root of procrastination, and self-imposed deadlines do not help procrastinators stop the cycle. True procrastinators delay tasks because they are not in the mood, and believe that they will be in the mood later. When later comes and they are still in the same emotional place, the tasks continue to be put off. What might work , according to some experts, is for procrastinators to find something enjoyable or meaningful in whatever task is to be undertaken, so as not to put it off for emotional reasons. This may take some practice, but perhaps each successfully completed task will become its own reward and the desire to put off today will subside.
Thursday, 17 April 2014 § Leave a comment
There will be plenty of bad days when you are going through a divorce or ending a relationship, and there is really no way around it. You must feel and grieve and let go. But it is important to remember that the pain shall pass with time. And some days you may need a reminder. This video can help you reset when you are feeling despair.